tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post8790716629950513899..comments2023-10-17T00:42:53.345-07:00Comments on FogCity Dweller: You Will Be Single Forever...valeriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15904215812180267706noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post-32066532347072850612011-06-21T18:03:06.238-07:002011-06-21T18:03:06.238-07:00My sister met and married (at 42) someone from Mat...My sister met and married (at 42) someone from Match. She had been dating for over 20 years. (Not on match the whole time. LOL!) And she had some unnecessarily hostile emails from men. FWIW, I always told her to get out and live her life and the right man would be out there. It's not bad advice, just not how it worked for her. I'm sure you'll find your way. PS I also married at 34. That seems to be a popular age here today!Anna van Schurmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09545037218589039870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post-64378317494801946572011-06-17T10:13:02.795-07:002011-06-17T10:13:02.795-07:00My vote would be for getting your nails done! LOL...My vote would be for getting your nails done! LOL! There are jerks everywhere out there - online and in person. You might look into joining a group through Meet Up, that focuses on an interest of yours. Or take Karen V's suggestion of a singles group with planned outings. As the acupuncture begins to help you have more energy and be excited about going out and doing things, this might be a good option for you!Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15055538119434258693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post-37635731430791713172011-06-17T00:13:06.560-07:002011-06-17T00:13:06.560-07:00Ok, I am pretty sure I know who will be single for...Ok, I am pretty sure I know who will be single forever, and its not going to be you!! That guy is cringeworthy, geeze.<br /><br />I like Karen V's suggestion. I think meeting someone is a social setting has got to be better than online. I met my husband at a party through a mutual friend and we have been married 23 years. But I could see how meeting a decent guy in SF might be tough. My brother lives in Richmond & is single - but he would just break your heart -lol. He loves 'em and leaves 'em....<br /><br />Hang in there Val - your guy is out there.Sylviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16222033866586789682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post-61054611594320888182011-06-16T07:59:21.336-07:002011-06-16T07:59:21.336-07:00??? A weirdo, for sure. Better drop the matter, an...??? A weirdo, for sure. Better drop the matter, and not even respond. I believe there is no guarantee one way or the other (meaning success or failure), whether you meet somebody on line, at the gym or in the underground. Stop worrying, go on trying, enjoy your life as it is (ie single for the time being).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post-7858747831075293352011-06-16T05:42:02.241-07:002011-06-16T05:42:02.241-07:00Hi Valerie ~ thank you so much for the warm welcom...Hi Valerie ~ thank you so much for the warm welcome! <br /><br />And I agree with the great advice from everyone else. My sister did the online dating route and did marry her soul mate! But she said she had to kiss a lot of frogs before she 'found her prince'Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12194880509630916177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post-3060060849318962582011-06-16T05:24:52.583-07:002011-06-16T05:24:52.583-07:00Honestly, guys like that aren't worth the bit ...Honestly, guys like that aren't worth the bit of life you lose by just getting angry about them - he's just a total waste of time, space, planet's resources, etc. Move on and leave him far away behind you where he belongs: you're so much more worth than a jerk like that.Giovannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06816333325112705329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post-91518194782134635062011-06-15T11:04:54.396-07:002011-06-15T11:04:54.396-07:00I remember those kind of men from online dating. ...I remember those kind of men from online dating. My favorite was the one who asked me what I possibly thought I had in common with him. They really do make singlehood look more and more inviting. But, since you've now done your time in jackwagon hell, you are due a decent online match!Rachel S-Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09107389853919180602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post-39115782618756319102011-06-15T10:35:52.147-07:002011-06-15T10:35:52.147-07:00What a dickwad. Seriously ... *who* says stuff lik...What a dickwad. Seriously ... *who* says stuff like that??!!Ann Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10781724384915508225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post-41079229622170925892011-06-15T09:42:07.827-07:002011-06-15T09:42:07.827-07:00What a jerk! I know people who have found their p...What a jerk! I know people who have found their partners thru online dating services so it's not impossible but just like any other venue, there are a lot of losers there too. I would try joining some organizations...a hiking club or something where you can broaden your social circle. I married when I was 34 so I know how it is out there in single-land. Don't give up.Jeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05377306162699247372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post-51851348061818039002011-06-15T07:51:25.652-07:002011-06-15T07:51:25.652-07:00I mey my DH at an undertakers!!! thats always a co...I mey my DH at an undertakers!!! thats always a conversation stopper when i tell folks LOL<br /><br />I loved your final line in that post, it did make me smile, Mr Right is out there somewhere for you Valerie xxxxJuliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13863899802782756191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post-49794148636103395262011-06-15T07:10:43.936-07:002011-06-15T07:10:43.936-07:00Yep--that sounds like the same sort of comments my...Yep--that sounds like the same sort of comments my sister was getting during her online dating experiences! How stupid he sounds--and you know what, "stupid" is forever... <br /><br />I'll bet you'll meet someone when you least expect it, Valerie. Not much help coming from someone who's been married for almost 34 years, but I'm so glad you're just trying to get out there and meet new people and friends and not just "the guy!" You sound like such a fun-loving person and someone who is fun to be around :)Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10368237913096460512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post-46532097395503257652011-06-15T06:30:16.797-07:002011-06-15T06:30:16.797-07:00Um, I think you can let that one go ;o) You know ...Um, I think you can let that one go ;o) You know Valerie, I was at a point like you and I was to a point where I just gave up, figuring I would never meet someone. I didn't go out with friends or party so I figured there was NO way I was going to meet 'the' right guy. When I stopped looking, that's when it happened :o) Don't give up and you won't be single forever!Pumpkinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10310433488261347972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post-22112451340392831652011-06-15T04:47:13.525-07:002011-06-15T04:47:13.525-07:00As my BFF would say, "I'd rather be cutti...As my BFF would say, "I'd rather be cutting my toenails" LOL<br /><br />Oh, I can sooooo relate to what you're going through. I've been divorced for 10 years and did the online dating thing. As others have said, you have to go through a LOT of losers to get even one who's close to being decent. <br /><br />And *they* wonder why they're single. Or, the dreaded question they ask "Why are YOU single?" Ummm... cuz there's a lot of losers out there.<br /><br />I'd rather be single than miserable with the likes of those I've run into online. I've also noticed most of them serious have "issues" that they're in denial about or refuse to deal with.Mearihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18080474930910254503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post-91929911104311545042011-06-15T02:34:44.385-07:002011-06-15T02:34:44.385-07:00Jeeps what a creep. I reckon you are right. I thin...Jeeps what a creep. I reckon you are right. I think he does think you are going to run straight to him. Control freak. There is someone out there for everyone but nobody is perfect. Just go out and have fun and the rest will follow. xxHazelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07391187914615955281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post-43508876095224245062011-06-15T02:18:17.983-07:002011-06-15T02:18:17.983-07:00I agree 100% with the social group route to findin...I agree 100% with the social group route to finding someone, as that's how I found my DH. I've probably mentioned this before, but we both belonged to the local branch of a group called Spice UK, which organises tons of social activities for adults of all ages. Eveything from quiz nights to ski-ing holidays and everything in between! We met at one event and just exchanged hellos and then met up properly at a NYE event - I was there with my ex-boyfriend and I nearly didn't go, but I'm glad I did ;) I don't know if you have anything similar over there - you would probably enjoy Spice, as you're quite social and there really are events for everyone. <br /><br />Mr "You're going to be single for the rest of your life" sounds like a complete jerk! There are nice guys out there and they usually come along when you least expect them to :) I would say concentrate on building a wonderful social life and the rest will follow (if you want it to) Good luck with it - it's definitely not too late to find someone and settle down.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post-56120000149058098692011-06-14T23:56:41.723-07:002011-06-14T23:56:41.723-07:00Ewww, that doesn't sound like a nice way to me...Ewww, that doesn't sound like a nice way to meet nice people. On the other hand, I met my first love, married him and got divorced. And I've never been so happy to be single. Believe me, it's better to be single and happy than to be in a relationship and utterly miserable!<br />Having said that, I do hope you bump into someone who can finish a complete sentence and who loves you, quirks and all.Annemariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17390739951380845343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post-81605378091790687612011-06-14T23:08:54.044-07:002011-06-14T23:08:54.044-07:00Yikes. :(
I know a few couples who met online and ...Yikes. :(<br />I know a few couples who met online and got married, etc. and it all worked (and is still working out years later) but that definitely doesn't seem like the norm. I have a few single friends who keep fishing in that pool and coming out with one heart breaker after another. And then the drama sometimes with other women if he's emailing other people too. Oy. Real winners out there sometimes. :(<br />Best of luck!!!Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06230362349362748862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post-40735119143353531282011-06-14T20:55:58.997-07:002011-06-14T20:55:58.997-07:00I found my husband online. It's not for every...I found my husband online. It's not for everyone, and you really have to go through a lot of crap people before you find a good one....a whole LOT of crap people. Honestly, I would have blocked your buddy by now. I have the feeling he's the one that's going to be single forever. :P So, which was it?? Nails or Costco? I am hoping nails!Branlaadeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06678286378713089390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post-75562878716087652312011-06-14T20:44:11.047-07:002011-06-14T20:44:11.047-07:00I have been married for nearly 30 years. I have al...I have been married for nearly 30 years. I have always been married.. over half my life... lol I married at 16... So I had no single life.. I just know for me, that we like the same things and we like to do the same things. It is hard work.. I know you know that from your earlier relationships. My friends all found there loving dh's by being around people that liked and did the same things as them. One is a medical examiner and her DH is a EMT. One loves jewelry and her DH is a Jewelry Broker.. lol I kid her all the time... I know someone is out there for you... It will happen...Just keep doing the things that you like to do, and going to places you like to go... It will happen... I have a real good friend that has blown through about 10,000.00 trying to found her my right through On-Line dating. She was divorced. If they are Divorce... She says" They have a lot of baggage" lol mostly ex-wife drama... She says it is not worth it. I do have a friend.. A guy. He is 48 lives at home with his parents since 1987.. That is the year he divorced his ex-wife for the 2nd time.. Has one son who is 25. lol.. I will not go into anything else about him.. and he keeps asking me why he cannot find anyone? Duh... your mom still cooks for you and does your laundry!!! If you need a good man to drive your parents to Dr appointments!!! I know he will fill that job.... lol Hope this last bit cheered you up !!! Some guys are good friends but not Marriage material.... lolaprilmecheelesdulllifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18228176118201085327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post-86203933145634322052011-06-14T20:17:37.082-07:002011-06-14T20:17:37.082-07:00Hang in there! Mr. Right will show up when you...Hang in there! Mr. Right will show up when you're not expecting him!CalamityJrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04476593722594704013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post-79939865503788723982011-06-14T18:46:40.342-07:002011-06-14T18:46:40.342-07:00What a mean thing to say. With his charm he must b...What a mean thing to say. With his charm he must be a hit with the ladies...NOT.Gabihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17258331709151408806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post-3891573481978941852011-06-14T18:03:12.809-07:002011-06-14T18:03:12.809-07:00Oh dear, you're making me relive my dating yea...Oh dear, you're making me relive my dating years all over again, but on-line dating wasn't really a big thing back then. Take heart, I got married at 38 and have two kids! You just have to muddle through the clutter before you find the right one. <br /><br />But even though I have a good husband, there are days when I long to be single again. Crazy, huh?Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00792171420098351093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post-53743981029711383002011-06-14T16:48:24.596-07:002011-06-14T16:48:24.596-07:00I can really sympathize with you!!!! I finally me...I can really sympathize with you!!!! I finally met my husband when I was 34. I had given up all hope and was resigning myself to hanging out with my Mom for the rest of my days (which would not have been so bad), but then I got lucky.<br /><br />BUT, I will say this.....getting married is not the be all and end all. To tell the truth, I would never even get married again in the future should something happen. <br /><br />Also, my Grandma had the best saying, "Blessed singleness is better than double cussedness." Which means it is better to be happy alone than miserable with someone else. <br /><br />I think the volunteering and social group method will bring you into contact with healthier people. I wish I knew a really hunky hetero male who liked to stitch and do all the things that you enjoy! <br /><br />Hang in there girl!!! I know good things will come to you!Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10415990188478250116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12317509.post-22478051559057500672011-06-14T16:29:20.141-07:002011-06-14T16:29:20.141-07:00Sounds like a real charmer, that one. Geez! I do...Sounds like a real charmer, that one. Geez! I do know that my cousin met his wife through an online dating site. It's pretty bizarre, but they seem quite compatible. She actually moved all the way from NJ to settle with him in CA too. Good luck with the dating.Margarethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03646028248366805686noreply@blogger.com