*I am not sure how I manage this hectic pace of mine because deep down, I'm a low energy person. Hence stitching being my hobby and not hiking, mountain biking, running, rock climbing, marathoning, triathaloning, surfing, hang gliding, skiing or snowboarding like my other city cohorts.
*This is probably why I feel like I am going to pass out each Friday. No joke. Somedays, it's extreme willpower and stubbornness that gets me through the day.
*The days fly by and I sometimes forget to call my parents all week. This means that by Sunday, my mother calls with her guilt trip. "Excuse me, you haven't called all week Valerie. Did you forget you have parents? We could be dead for all you know!" I reply, Sorry Ma. Been busy. Deep down, I want to say "How can I forget! You call me every week to remind me!" But that is a very bad daughter comment to make when I try to be a good daughter. If you have grown up kids trying to make their way in the world, don't guilt trip them! Better yet, call them up and say hi and ask how they are doing. My parents believe they shouldn't call their kids and that the kids should be the ones doing all the calling. Seriously!
*How can I explain to a pair of 80 year olds that I am trying to live my life and not theirs. And that since I am trying to live my life, that means I am busy. And I go out. And sometimes til the wee hours of the morning. And that means that I can be tired and I want to sleep and not visit them? How am I supposed to meet new people and make new friends? This won't happen with me being a hermit at my place or me spending endless hours visiting them at their house. They don't seem to understand and I feel like we are both selfish. They are old and retired and want to have company. I am young and vibrant and want to be out with people my own age. I guess we've reached the point where we will just have to be disappointed in each other because it's time for me to live the life *I* want and not the life my *family* wants. Besides, it's time for my boomer siblings to pull some weight. Which they are...finally.
*I need to find and develop a routine between working full-time, hanging out with friends (new and old), gym, possible dating, stitching, blogging and general errands/projects/shopping/cooking/tidying. It is hard! Not to mention it's been all or nothing lately. Ex: All social; no gym. Being so social means that I eat/drink out more than I would at home which then means things feel a little tighter and holy cow, where did this jiggly bit come from?! I need to do some Jane Fonda bends or hulahooping to take care of that! Or the gym...yea, I guess the gym would work.
*This year marks my downhill slide to 40. I am closer to 40 than I am to 30. OMG...say it aint so! Thank goodness I keep getting comments that I look 28. I will grasp at any straw I can at this point.
*To my new commenters, thanks for stopping by my blog! I try to reply to new visitors but some of you don't have emails linked to your comments. Welcome to my little corner of blogland!
*To my regular readers, I haven't been commenting as much because of this hectic pace I am keeping but I am still reading and keeping apprised. Stop inspiring me so much though! I barely have time to stitch as it is. When will I have time to jump on the bandwagon?! Everywhere I look...mystery sampler, Chats, Miras, ornies, Shepherd's Bush, Blackbird Designs, Halloween! *sigh*
*This was supposed to be a *real* post but the camera decided it had enough and needed a nap so it's recharging for it's next photo session. =) So that means more randomness for now!
Until next time...
18 comments:
Hey Valerie!
It is so hard to balance everything and so tiring. I try very hard not to over commit and I am trying to say no to things. I often say I am sorry if you want to have dinner we have to look at my September or October calendar. Crazy!
Hang in there, I hope you find that perfect balance for all the different parts of your life!
I need to find more time to stitch!
No matter where you are in your life, finding balance is very tricky. It's a constant effort. If you find the magic key, let us all know! :)
You're so young! Downward slide to 40 is nothing compared to 50. lol! I hope you find a good balance in your life. It's not an easy thing. Hope the parents get to understanding that you have a life and they need to do the calling once in a while too. Hope that camera wakes up soon. :D
Hugs headed your way! You've certainly been busy. It can sometimes be so hard to balance all the hats that we ladies wear in life!
Balance is difficult, just keep working at it. It'll be worth it! My SIL is taking hooping lessons. She counts it as exercise and social since she loves the women in her class and her teachers.
and I agree with the others. You dont look close to 40 at all.
Finding a balance is not always easy. And sometimes it takes a while before you see the changes you want to make and realize them.
I hope you'll be at a happy place soon. If I was you then bloggers and where to be with stitching would be my last thing to worry about. It's a hobby and should be fun only. :)
Balance is never easy!!!! I am glad your siblings are stepping up to help a bit. It shouldn't be all your responsibility. I think the parents waiting for the kids to call is a generational thing, LOL.
I am closer to 50 than 40 lol! Another just over 2 years and I'll be there HELP! Mind you one of the ladies at craft club thought I was closer to 40 so that made my day :)
I WISH I were closer to 40! Bummer getting older.... I can't believe I'm 50+. But, you've got the right idea - it's all about balance. Unfortunately, I haven't gotten that figured out myself - it is constant work. Biggest thing is to take care of YOU and it sounds like you're doing that. Keep it up!
I think it's great that you're doing what you need to do for you, and not being weighed down by the guilt trips. Take care of yourself and do try to find some balance so that you have time to recharge.
I feel your family issues and commiserate!! Just keep pluggin' away - and remember that YOU only have this one life to live. Big Hugz!!!!!!
Glad to hear your siblings are finally beginning to step in and help with your parents, Valerie... They've been putting it all on you for too long. For some reason, I'm the one who always calls my parents, too. I think they figure that I'm busier than they are so I should call them when I have the time...I used to only call once a week, but with their illnesses, I'm now calling multiple times a week (or traveling up to stay with them like I am right now!!).
That slide into your 40s may sound "old", but just wait until you're on the downward slide to 60 like me. I can't possibly be this old, can I???
Hope you have a fun weekend, Valerie with some special time just for yourself :)
*Ahem* Valerie! (lol) I am 43! People never believe it when I tell them, though.
I can relate to "getting it all done". We just do it. Thankfully, my parents don't call me with the guilt trips. Although, when I go to visit (they're retired too), they expect me to stay at least 3 hours. Otherwise, I hear "Come back when you can stay longer"
Hang in there. Trust me... getting to 40 isn't bad.
Your mom sounds like my cousin's mom. She's always getting guilt tripped about calling every week. :S
Have fun with your busy life!!! I know it's gets crazy and hectic, but that sure is much more fun than sitting at home, bored out of your skull, eh? ;)
Glad that your siblings are starting to pull their weight more re: your parents. It's unreasonable to expect you to do everything. Finding the right balance is hard - maybe once the winter comes things will settle down a bit and you can get into a better routine for your needs?
Oh, and I'm 43 too... ;)
I'm in limbo until school starts again next week. I can get a grip on what I need to do instead of what I need to do to keep 2 kids busy.
I could have written this post myself, the days are whizzing by, hence i am behind on commenting here and on other blogs too. I am closer to 50 than 40 and a birthday last week didnt help with knowing that LOL
Enjoy your hectic life, have fun and make the most of life adventures, i should tell myself that!!
I don't how the days go by so fast and it's not even that I'm living a hectic life. Seems you start a week and suddenly it's finished! Sounds like life is hectic right now but enjoy and the balance will come.
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