Wednesday, November 14, 2012

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do



The title says it all. I fell off my NaBloPoMo wagon on day three because I was dealing with lots of emotions over the last couple of weeks trying to figure out what I wanted  to do about the so-called relationship I was in. We were on a break which I hoped would help us get to know each other and reconnect better but all it seemed to do was breed more negativity. The outcome is not what I would have liked...obviously. No one likes to break up. So much feeling, time and hope invested in one person for it to just evaporate. But settling is not at option either. I didn't reach this ripe old spinster age if I was willing to settle. I'm holding out for the one who makes my heart sing and adds to my happiness.

So NaBloPoMo is a bust. I haven't accomplished very much outside work and the housesitting duties that oftentimes seem never-ending. Stitching and knitting has been scarce but happens here and there. I am hoping that with this newfound singledom, I will get back to my usual craftiness or at least improve. I've had the lowest number of finishes so far this year that I can remember! But I've also had a lot of fun and gotten out of my box, met new people, tried a new relationship and rediscovered myself. I'd say that was good.

I am months behind on my blogging posts, reviews, updates, emails,  etc. And my unread posts are climbing beyond 800+. At this point, I am tempted to hit "mark all as read" and start over. I am sure you all can relate to that. Being so behind makes me sooo anxious!

This weekend in IHSW! I have stitch group on Saturday so I know that some progress will be made whether it's stitching or knitting this weekend. It's a must!

Until next time...

30 comments:

Anna van Schurman said...

Sorry to hear it. Something will happen someday. It'll be good. :)

Carol R said...

Sorry to hear of the breakup - sending you big [[[hugs]]]

Margaret said...

Oh bummer. :( I'm sorry about your break-up. The right guy WILL come along. He will.

Dee said...

Sending you a big hug!

Margaret said...

ps: just delete the blogs and start over. Too much to deal with!

Cole said...

That sucks, sorry friend :) But I do like your positive side for this year - getting out of the box, meeting new people, etc... that's not easy to do!

Barb said...

I would just forget about the old blogs and start over. Sorry for your personal sadness!

Catherine said...

Hang in there! Sending lotsa hugs!!!

Peggy Lee said...

Yep...I've had to hit the "mark all as read" button a few times. We will understand!

Don't settle for less than what you need in a relationship. It will find you!

~hugs

carol fun said...

I too have dumped all the unread stuff a time or two. Sometimes you just need a clean start.... in many areas of life! Take care- you are so smart not to settle!

Michele said...

No words...just s sigh and a HUG.

mbroider said...

Hugs to you. You will find him who will make your heart sing. Go ahead with 'mark all as read'

cucki said...

Hugs for you dear friend xxx

Ann at Beadlework. said...

Don't put pressure on yourself Valerie, I think we're all guilty of that to greater or lesser degrees. Reading other people's blogs isn't important in the scheme of things, hit the delete button and you'll feel better.

Chris said...

Hugs!

Siobhán said...

Sorry to hear about the break up!

Julie said...

{big hug}
Mark as read and start again, way too many to catch up on, everyone understands these things happen, blog reading is meant to be enjoyable, not a chore.

Giovanna said...

I agree, wipe the Reader clean and start again. Sorry about the break-up :-(

Carm said...

Breaking up is always hard. Hang in there better now than when you had more invested! You are to special to just settle!!!!!!!!!!!You have to kiss a few frogs to find your prince,LOL!

ariadne said...

Don't worry something better will come along!And you are not a spinster, don't say that!AriadnefromGreece!

Katrina said...

Big hugs, and so sorry about the breakup.

Loraine said...

That is a disappointment. You have a great attitude about it all though, and you should wait for the one that makes you truly happy.
Many hugs.

Christina said...

Oh no...hope you're ok Valerie.

Laura said...

Hey, you took a chance and had some fun, so that's good, and there's someone else out there for you to find and get to know, and that's good too! Enjoy your "me" time. NaBloPoMo is such a big commitment. I can't imagine even attempting it although I enjoy reading blogs of all the people who do.

Melanie said...

Big hugs! It can be a rough time of the year anyway and I'm sure breaking up doesn't make it any easier. The blogging thing.........enh. No need to pound it out every day to meet a goal if you're not feeling it.

Carol said...

Darn...I was really hoping things would work out, but, as you say, you shouldn't need to settle, Valerie! You are such a special person and I hope you realize that--sending you a big hug and an order to just delete all those old blogs out of your reader right now!!

Keep busy and keep stitching and reading--take care now, my friend :)

Kaisievic said...

Important not to just settle - this is definitely something you need to get right. I would consider deleting all those unread emails - it is impossible to keep up, I find! Best wishes, Valerie.

Anne said...

Sorry to hear it didn't work out for you but I'm glad you made the decision now and not years later. So good for you! I hope that with this new discovery of yourself that you will be attracting the right person. Continue having fun and meeting new people! It's the only way to go!

As for blogging...I say do it! Mark them all as read!! Or, do what I do when I get super behind and comment on the most current post and scroll through the rest. I find that makes me less panicky!!

Yay for your Saturday stitch group!

Hugs

Rachel S-H said...

I'm sorry about this, Valerie.

Meari said...

Sorry it didn't work out. Glad to hear you're not going to settle, though.