Thursday, April 12, 2012

Randomness

~I get along with men better than women a lot of the time but I am starting to wonder if men can really be friends with women. I am starting to doubt it. I was just "dumped" by a male "friend". Despite getting along really well, I didn't want to date him because he was what I classified as a mess. No job, crashing with friends, no car...nice enough guy. He reminded me of the last relationship mistake I made. I was clear that I wanted to be friends and each month, I had to remind him...and each month, I'd sense red flags that just made me more secure in the decision of just being platonic friends. He said something offensive to me last week and I got really upset. I told him how I felt and all I got out of him was that "he's been patient with me and his patience was wearing thin and how we both wanted different things and that he was done with me". The dude basically broke up with me...as if we were in a relationship! But I'm here telling myself that I was explicitly clear that we were friends from the beginning. And boy am I glad! I don't need any guy being more of a diva than me. And I don't need some guy pressuring me to be more than I am comfortable with. I don't need a guy who's so desperate to be in a relationship but can't see a good friendship staring him in the face. I don't need any of that.

~I don't need any of that because I am happy and secure in the knowledge of who I am. I don't need to be in a relationship to feel better about myself. And in my world, that is the most important and calming feeling. I'm happy with me. I know what I want. I am not settling. Needy diva boys can go away. I haven't the patience for them.

~I found a social group that makes me amazingly happy. Wonderful people looking to be happy, have fun and make friends. I've fit in nicely and they've even given me a title. I'm all important now. It's nice to be liked for who you are. I feel like I'm making new friends and it's the best feeling! A lot of us are going wine tasting on Saturday and I can't wait!

~I hit a little bit of a slump with stitching since it's been so busy and I've been more tired with implementing cooking and workouts into my weekly routine. But I have a couple of tiny finishes I'll tell you about later.

~Last night, I had a headache and I took my normal Excedrin dosage. I fell asleep from 11pm to 130am. I woke up with a crazy charley horse (hate those!) and was wide awake until 430am when I fell asleep for another 2 hours. I'm wondering if the caffeine in Excedrin made me feel like I slept for 7 hours when it was only 2.5 since I've been caffeine free for 3 weeks now.

~What does one want to do in the middle of the night when you're wide awake and can't sleep? Shop! Followed by rooting around for my stitching projects. I finished a small that shouldn't have been as troublesome as it was, found fabric for a Just Nan I'd like to start and dug Mary Wigham out of the WIP basket. I know! Crazy! I guess I found my stitching mojo again!

~I've been slowly organizing my DMC. I literally have hundreds of skeins to wind and it is tedious! But the colors are so pretty...

~I went on a date last weekend. More to keep up on my dating skills. It's like keeping sharp on interview skills. You don't want to get rusty. The guy constantly brought up his ex-ex-ex girlfriend (big dating no-no). And then he actually told me his ex-girlfriend (Not the ex-ex-ex) was repressed and terrible in the sack and how he had to break up with her even though he really liked her. Uh, ok. I'm glad that you feel you can be honest with me but you probably shouldn't be telling girls that information that you're hoping to date. Not to mention that our date was at 7pm and he ate dinner before we even met! Um, didn't he think that maybe I'd like to eat something when we're meeting around dinner time? Sweet Jesus...Serenity Now! Needless to say, I'm not seeing that guy again and it solidified the fact that being single isn't so bad and some guys really need help in the dating department.

~Since I only slept 4.5 hours last night, I wonder if I will make it through yoga tonight!

~I feel like this is one of my more boring "randomness" posts. It's been a weird couple of weeks but I promise that the next post will have photos of actual stitching! Promise!

Hope you're all having a nice week...until next time!

24 comments:

Ann at Beadlework. said...

Not boring at all, I love to read about your life and your willingness to share is refreshing.

Dee said...

Diva people of ANY gender are just a huge pain in the rear. We have one in our lunch group. Believe me, I'd dump her in a minute, if I could figure out a way to do it.

Margaret said...

Wow. Well, I'm glad you've found a great social group. Sounds great! And thumbs down on the supposed male friend and the date. Ew. It's good you're sticking with all the cooking and exercise and stuff. Hope you get more sleep tonight. I hate insomnia sooooo much!

Chocolates4Breakfast (TerriBoog) said...

I don't know how you slept at all taking Excedrin after going caffeine free! Boys, blech! I just barely made it to my insanity workout yesterday after not sleeping the night before - you can do it, too! Boys, blech!
Your new social group sounds fun. Boys, blech! Going for a wine tasting sounds like a great outing. Boys blech! Good for you for organizing your stash. Boys, blech! Looking forward to seeing some stitchy pics! Boys, blech! Okay, not all boys but you sure do gotta kiss a lot of frogs.....

Denise said...

I've been married twice, single ain't so bad LOL.

Theresa said...

Glad you found a social group you like~~
You never know what guys are thinking.... seriously......
Hope you get some sleep tonight. Take care!!

Keeper of the Crowes said...

Unbelievable!!! What idiots! So happy you found a group of friends that you really enjoy being with!
Linda

Michele said...

Not boring in the least. Randomness can be quite interesting. This one was a reminder for most of us as to why: 1) it's good to be off the dating scene and married and/or 2) being single isn't bad at all considering the diva's and dating idiots you are having to contend with. ( I happen to be in category 1in this circumstance and am so happy of it.) I hope you get some sleep in the nights to come. XD

Vinniey said...

Glad to hear your stitching mojo is back and you found a social group of friends that makes you happy. Hope you get some nice nod off into slumber. Try Chamomile tea or Rooibos tea. :)

Giovanna said...

I second the chamomile tea suggestion! Glad you found a nice group of friends.

Chris said...

Hey Valerie!
I hope that the sleep schedule gets back to normal soon.
The friend issue is hard. It sounds like the group is great and that you are doing things together.
It is so great that you are organizing the DMC but I know what a big task that is. I hope to see some stitching too.
HAve a great weekend.

Sally said...

Hope you get some sleep Valerie. I hate not sleeping properly. I just lay awake thinking which is not good and getting more strssed cos I can't sleep!!! Lol!

Laura said...

I think men and women can be friends but those relationships unfortunately seem to be few and far between. I have one close male friend of over 15 years and there has never, ever been anything but friendship between us. On the other hand, I've been through exactly what you described with several other guys. It's his loss anyway, and now that you have found a nice group to socialize with you don't need him anyway!

Carol said...

Valerie--your randomness posts are never boring. In fact I think I read each and every word of them :)

EWWWW on that last date--really!! What was he thinking--way too much information! Did he think that would make you like him--honestly! Yuk! Yuk! Yuk!

I can't take Excedrin at night or I'd never fall asleep. Have been dealing with an off and on headache for two days now--must be something weather related. Charley horses are the worst, aren't they?

So glad you've found a fun social group--surround yourself with happy, upbeat people. It really makes such a difference...

Enjoy your weekend, Valerie!!

Deb said...

There is no way that I could sleep after taking that Excedrin - I would be definitely be bouncing off the walls. Your posts aren't boring at all - I love reading them. It's just too bad that all these men have to be weirdos!

Lanie said...

Valerie, I am so glad to hear that you are happy with yourself and don't need a mate for your self worth. That is truly the most important gift I hope I have given my girls. If only more girls thought of themselves as you do. When you find your perfect man it is wonderful...couldn't imagine life without mine. But you must love yourself before you can truly give love and be loved. That's my words of wisdom for the day, girls ;)

Michelle said...

A wine tasting sounds fun! Sorry to hear about the diva, the date, and the headache though. But yay for playing in your stash!! I hope you have a fantastic weekend and I can't wait to see what you've been working on!

Melanie said...

My opinion only...........but I don't think most men and women can be good friends past, say, school age. (And maybe not even then.) It always seems to get weird at some point. And complicated. Well, unless one of you (or both) are gay. Then it will probably be fabulous. (As long as the people who are gay know they are gay, because then it will get complicated and messy........LONG STORY/STILL BITTER. Wait, where was I going with this spiel? lol)

WTF with that date???????? Seriously?????? Yikes. Oh gurl, I feel for ya. :(

Unknown said...

Hi, Valerie! I'm new to your blog, and not in the stitching arts (is that right?) but I have to ask: what happens to your creations once you've finished them? I love reading your stuff and look forward to reading more!

Meari said...

I didn't think it was boring at all. Every time I read about your dating posts, it brings back memories of the same things I went through. Very rarely will you find a single guy who *just* wants to be friends.

Anne said...

Valerie! I love your random posts!! I'm glad that you are keeping up with the no caffeine, healthy cooking, work out stuff! Good girl! You've been much better than me, even though I've been out cycling, I need to start building my upper body with some yoga!!

Also glad that you are no longer hanging out with that guy anymore. You don't need to be with someone with no ambitions or stability!! That date sounds like it was irritating!! Who eats before a date?!?!?! Or talks incessantly about his exes?!??!!

That group sounds like a lot of fun too! What title did they give you?

Shopping late at night is fun...and dangerous hehehehe!!!

Hugs

Veronica said...

Glad to hear you've found a nice social group to hang out with. Hehe... I've done that late night shopping and stitching before too. Gotta admit, it's fun ^.^ Being single isn't a bad thing... Definitely beats being with someone that's just wrong for you :)

Hugs,
Veronica.

Kaisievic said...

That last date sounds a hoot! Fancy telling you all that. Love your rambling post and have fun wine tasting.

hugs, Kaye xoxox

Catherine said...

I love your random posts! Why do guys do such stupid things! Your group sounds fun and yay on the stitching front! My time has been very limited lately and I miss it!