Sunday, June 17, 2012


~I can't believe I've been back home for two weeks already...although truth be told, my vacation feels like it was months ago.

~I packed up an office and moved to a new one. I am not happy about it...but I'm sucking it up because the rent and the bills have to be paid somehow.

~Packing and unpacking an office is exhausting. There has been no gym time but I figure that lifting and moving boxes counts as a workout. My body is certainly feeling it.

~Me and change don't get along very well so my anxiety level has been at an all time high.

~This hasn't been helped by the fact I was being harrassed by an unhinged mental case this week all because I said that I did not want to meet him for drinks. Thank goodness my gut instinct still works. I say no and have been insulted and harassed via text and email ever since. Amazing that a guy wants to go out with you and the minute you say no, you're told that you're lame, boring, fat, have a retarded face and don't meet the type of guys you are into because you don't know what you want. Really? My face (and everything else) was plenty good enough to ask out but now it's suddenly retarded? And I definitely don't want to be with someone who can't handle hearing the words "no, thank you" and becomes abusive because of it. I know that I want...that's a whole other post in the writing. The mental case has been reported...I just hope it's the last I heard of him.

~I wish one of my friends would just set me up with a nice guy already...although I realize it may not be the guy I'm looking for either but it would be a nice change from the psychopaths I encounter online.

~Needless to say, I haven't been sleeping very well.

~Despite the exhaustion and anxiety, I've had some good times. I had an amazing dinner at a beloved French bistro in the city...amazingly taken care of by the manager. I caught up with friends. I met up with a friend who tells me that I'm pretty and beautiful and smart and helps me wipe away all the evil uncertainties that sometimes linger in my head because of situations like the above even though I know I am a terrific catch stuck amidst a sea of rejected fish. I saw Rock of Ages which was ah-mazing! Of course, the music was fantastic and not so much the acting but that's the whole point of movies like that. I walked the North Beach Festival. Watched part of a soccer game for the first time ever and got lots of info on how it works. Had a delicious dim sum lunch which consisted of eating my weight in food. I haven't eaten!!

~I am still trying to catch up on blog posts...which means I can't manage to write a "real" one of my own. I have a trip recap, stitching and a Yiota's kit review post to write. I am so behind!

~I hope you all have a great start to the week!

Until next time...

~I hope to catch up by next weekend...hope.hope.hope.


carol fun said...

Hang in there - you never know what is around the corner. Oh moving a office is a work out and I understand the anxiety that comes from change. It gets me all out of sorts. I hope you find comfort in your friends and your stitching - it really is good therapy. Hugs!

Anonymous said...

Yuck ... hope your loser stays lost!

Tomorrow is a chance to start fresh. Hope you have a good week.

Ann at Beadlework. said...

Hope you catch up this week, it's so easy to fall behind after a trip and when you are busy Monday to Friday. We all have the same problem so don't stress about it or beat yourself up.

Giovanna said...

You've had a lot to deal with. I hope the nutcase stays well away now - the situation sounds majorly annoying. Take care.

Julie said...

Having a vacation makes you all behind anyway, but having an office move too, no wonder you are feeling exhausted. ((big hug))

You can see why the psycho guy is still looking for a partner, well done for reporting him, there are folks who would have just let him get away with it.

It was good to read you have had some fun times in with the stress too.

Take care x

Chris said...

Hey Valerie,
I hope that your stress level improve this week. I hope that you get settles at work and that there is no more contact from the jerk.
It sounds like there has been some fun, food and music. That is always great.
Take care.

Margaret said...

Ah Valerie, it seems we are both at high anxiety levels right now, for totally different reasons. I hope your new office turns out to be good -- moving is such a pain, but moving offices is just plain yuck. The mental case -- glad you reported him. What a loser and an idiot! Seems guys like to verbally abuse girls who say no to them (it happened twice to my DD too, the verbal abuse thing). The fun things sound good, glad they are happening as well. We had a dim sum lunch over the weekend so I relate to that! lol! I hope the good things keep coming, the stress levels go down, and you find a nice guy to hang out with.

Vonna Pfeiffer said...

Oh gosh Valerie, I'm so sorry about the mental case. That's just horrible. I hope he gets his A$$ handed to him. He will someday because what goes around comes around and why is he still single? If he was such a catch would he be asking women out? I don't think so... You're a wonderful woman, screw him.
Keeping you in my prayers, I'm bad with upheaval too, so I understand.

Peggy Lee said...

I don't do change well either. I stick with what works...most of the time.
So glad you met up with your oh-so-right friend who tells you you're face isn't retarded. I can't believe the nerve of some people. I agree with Vonna...I would love to be the one who hands him his a$$. hehee

Take care...

Natasha said...

Where does this guy work and what's his name?? I will call in an annoymous bomb threat on his behalf ;) I do know a guy in my building but I am not sure if he's signgle or not he does have a very cute dog though.

Hang in there chicka! You are awesome and a blast to be around. There are alot of weirdos out there and unfortunatly they outnumber all the cool people! ((HUGS))

Michelle said...

I love that in the midst of all the change and the crazypants asshole that you have had some good times, some good food, and spent time with good friends. That's what it's all about! Big hugs, girl!

~Narita said...

You're so sweet, cute, fun and wonderful Valerie. I just love you!
I dont know whats up with guys, but if anyone deserves a nice one, its you.
Change can be exciting! Its all about rethinking your feelings about it. :)
I imagine moving iffices would be a drag--can you imagine moving 2 clothing stores? I've done that before. No wait, 3! And you can't just box all the clothes up, each thing needs to be counted and written up on a paper. Oh... fond retail memories... NOT!

Meari said...

Ack! I certainly don't miss the pyschopaths I ran into when I was online dating. You most certainly are beautiful and worthy of a great guy. Unfortunately, there aren't many out there.

Change is good!

Melanie said...

What a looney-tunes!!!! Yikes. :(
Hope things get a little easier soon!!!!!!! *hugs*

Christina said...

OMG - what a lucky escape. Imagine if you'd actually gone out with a guy like that...yikes!
I hope that you get settled into your new office asap. I too hate change - it takes me a while to adjust to any type of change.
Wow - an American watching a soccer (football) match! lol. I'm teasing of course, but persist with it - it's a great game! Actually, as I type I'm watching England play Ukraine in Euro 2012. We're winning 1-0 but still got 20 minutes to go so who knows how it will end!

Deb said...

When I read your blog and about your adventures with men, it so reminds me of when I was dating and some of the half-assed things that men would do. You do know that it will get better, don't you?

Be careful about having friends fix you up with a nice guy. My girlfriend had several nice guys. One of them took me out and talked about cars all night - dual exhausts, manifolds, etc. I thought that I had lost my frigging mind. Nice guy, but.........second date never happened. There were a few spark plugs loose in his head. LOL

I hope that everything evens out for you. I know that change is hard to get through, but things get better as time passes.

Veronica said...

Aiks! That's scary. Certainly hope you won't hear from him ever again.

Mmm... dim sum is nice. Just had that this past Sunday :)

Hope you'll settle down soon with your new office.


Catherine said...

Wow! What a time you have been having. I hope things are going better, the psycho is gone, and you are settling in at your new office. Hugs...

Stitchinowl said...

He sounds like a real "less than zero" kind of guy. Don't let it get to you. I agree with the other poster, Carolfun - hang in there. Good things happen when you're not looking.

Dani - tkdchick said...

Hugs... you need hugs! Try packing an entire library ... now that's fun!

Lisa said...

I, too, have been trying to catch up on my blog reading. Thank you for your comments on mine.

Valerie, you deserve the best and I am glad that you are strong and able to say "no". That is important. Hang in there, for I know that there is someone out there...but it just sucks that you have to go through so much before you find him.

Take care my stitching friend. I hope to find some day that we can meet up at NIAH and catch up in person!

Anonymous said...

Quick hello from across the big pond ! Thank you for your visits to my blog. Valérie