Friday, March 12, 2010

Things Got Worse...

I think I will have to put the idea of bi-monthly date nights and Mendocino weekend on hold for now. When I got home on Monday, after posting my vent post, I got home to find *the boy* waiting for me with a glass of wine. Sometimes this practice is a sweet gesture and other times, it's to liquor me up before spilling some bad news. I really couldn't take it at that point and just asked what had happened. Well, after working at the new place for two weeks, he had to present a proposal with suggestions on how the company was to move forward with the project he was hired to do. He presented the proposal, they didn't like it and they fired him on the spot. Oh, excuse me...they let him go because they "didn't think it was going to work out". I suppose that is the more genteel way of saying my original statement.

The Eff?!

I don't understand why this whole getting a job and keeping a job is so hard for *the boy*. I don't. He's super smart about business stuff. He has worked for big name companies and is very well connected. He likes the start-up environment which is risky and unstable. I keep telling him to look for a big, established company that can offer more stability but then, in this market...there isn't very much that is stable. But I have a real problem with how business is done nowadays. In the time I've known *the boy*, he's had 4 jobs that have all ended up being short term. The first company ran out of money and was probably connected to the Russian Mafia, the second was run by a crazy woman (I can say this since I actually met her) and it went bankrupt, the third was a temp job that was run 99% by women and I don't think they really wanted men in the business and the fourth apparently didn't like the proposal and didn't feel like working together was possible. What is with the one shot and you're out?! Are we stuck in some real-life version of The Apprentice? Fore reals... how do people conduct business this way? Not to mention wasting a month and a half interviewing and doing the paperwork to bring someone on only to let them go 2 weeks later. It is ridiculous!

So I'm even more bummed out which has led to stash therapy via online stash shopping. At least I'm stitching...but very little.

A part of me wonders if it's *the boy* or if it's business. Either way, I'm frustrated. At least I see that *the boy* is driven to find another job and as I type, he's at an interview. That's good but he needs to find something that will last longer than two weeks otherwise, the days of this relationship will become numbered and fast. My happiness really lies in him being able to take care of himself and that includes having his own job that brings in money. I have enough of my own things, not to mention the old folks, to worry about without him adding his mountain to my molehill.

Thanks to all the lovely supportive comments I got on my last post. I had meant to reply to many but my energy level was at an all-time low all week. I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend. My plans are quite low-key...farmer's market, visit with the old folks because my mom is bribing me to visit by making homemade chicken soup which I love, massage and a little stitching. I've managed to stitch a little more on Boo Club. I'm on the fourth section which I want to finish so I can catch up to the end of April since I have more gift stitching to do.

I'm half-tempted to drag *the boy* to church to thrown some holy water on him and make him light a candle at St. Jude's alter. He didn't appreciate the reference of him being a lost cause but hey, it can't hurt, right?

okiedoke, until next time...

12 comments:

Missy Ann said...

WTF?! Seriously, 1 proposal and you're fired.

Right now I'm full of rage for the freakin' business world as is, I'm ready to lay 110% of this at their feet & not the boy's.

But I do completely understand your position of not wanting to be the only one with a job.

(((Val)))

KarenV said...

Valerie, I'm so sorry :( That's completely ridiculous, almost sounds like they were waiting for an excuse to get rid of him for some reason. I hope he gets something else very soon and I completely understand your need for him to be independent. I hope you have a good weekend {{{hugs}}}

Shelleen said...

They asked him to come up with an idea and they don't like it so he is fired?what the he'l is wrong with just saying we dont care for the proposal and then moving onto something else. I hope that things improve for you.

Matthew said...

Wow! No advice, Valerie. Just good thoughts for both of you. I hope things turn around for him but I certainly understand your need for him to be independent and self-supporting. Hugs from NY. Nancy D.

Margaret said...

Oh no! You've got to be kidding! I can't believe it! I'm soooo sorry to hear this -- it must be so hard right now for you and for the boy. I hope he finds a good job fast. Hang in there!

Ann Marie said...

OMG. I'm in shock.

I think it's encouraging that he's already job hunting and I hope it goes well.

But remember that your priority is to make yourself happy so just keep remembering what you wrote about what you need from him in order to do that. He needs to deliver this time because you have gone above and beyond the call of any girlfriend. Stay strong my friend.

Theresa said...

That is one of the weirdest way to fire people. It is so strange of them to put so many effort to hire someone and then fire them in two weeks.... That is not right.

I truly hope everything will turn around for you. Hang in there!!!

((Hugs))

Carol R said...

oh no - bad news for the *boy*! I can well understand your frustration but hang in there as I am sure he will find the 'right' job in time!
Hugs to you both.

Laural said...

The proposal sounds like their cover for what they had already decided to do.

I'm sorry I've missed so much. I do hope that things start to come around to a positive. I'm feeling your pain along with you.

Deb said...

Maybe that company just wasn't for him. One proposal and he's out? Seems a little harse to me. Hope that the interviews work out for him.

Dani - tkdchick said...

Boy that sure must make life really hard when things just aren't stable. I guess since he was "on probation" they could get rid of him without cause.

Rachel S said...

That stinks that they did that to him. What a waste of his time. Your stitching is beautiful!